I have encountered a great many people though my Path in this lifetime, yet most of these individuals fall into one of several camps of thought. Many were raised in some sort of religious ideology and their reason for seeking me out usually puts them into one of three of these camps.
1. Those looking for something to help them define their “specialness”; regardless that all are special in their own way, these individuals seek validation that their feelings of separateness mean they have unique and special qualities and they merely have to uncover them.
2. Those looking for a meaning to their day-to-day life; they are not finding satisfaction in doing what they do and feel that the metaphysical may be the key to their self-fulfillment.
3. Those looking for the piece that is missing from themselves; they feel a lack within and are seeking the missing piece to complete the puzzle of who they are.
In many ways, these are all the same camp, but in other ways they are clearly separate. In many cases, those in #1 stay for so long and then flit away on the newest idea, regardless that they have not even mastered one idea they are ever onward to the newest idea that caught their eye, much like a butterfly seeking colorful flowers. Many times they just don’t have the time or desire to spend any length of time on any one concept or idea; they merely seek that which helps them feel gratified and special.
Those in #2 stay long enough to realize that there is no instant gratification from attending one or two classes, a few meditations, and a group session here and there. They keep looking on the internet and through this friend and that friend for something that will instantly resonate and vibrate.
These two groups are the ones who come in and out of my – and every other teacher out there – classes; the key here to realize is that they are expecting resolution from what they feel is missing to come from OUTSIDE of them.
Camp #3 are my Seekers; they come just like camps #1 and #2 but quickly realize that the answer calling to them is from inside of themselves. They realize that they are the only ones who can answer the question. They realize it may take years of work to deeply understand the why and how of their internal universe.
I have accepted students and clients from all three camps because sometimes one simply does not know which camp the individual will be at home in. Many people have left when I refused to become their guru – for I am no one’s guru but my own. I refuse to brow beat anyone into doing something. If it is valuable to you, then you will find the time to do it.
Some leave because we don’t provide enough splash and pizazz – when we say you need to do the work we mean just that! No big marketing campaigns promising instant results in just three weeks! Nope! No magic faerie wands here! You will see, hear, and feel the results when you put in the time..and many times it can take months before you experience anything significant enough to satisfy the hype that Hollywood has created!
Those who realize that this is not just a weekend activity, not an event to divert your attention during the week in the midst of a long winter season, and not just a social event are those who take root in camp #3. Those in camp #3 are willing to spend significant time every day working on themselves, working to overcome old wounds and traumas, healing those wounds and becoming a stronger, more transparent individual; embracing the honesty necessary to stop lying to oneself and to own that which makes his or herself human. Camp #3 is the life program, not a weekend class or a season of fun. Yes, we do have fun, but we realize this is not a hobby that we are just picking up for a while. Our whole life is changed by this process and thus it becomes our life and our life becomes the Path.
There is no one way to do this; there is no one way to find Spirit, to solve one’s problems, or to heal one’s wounds, but there is are several qualities that are required to achieve success: patience, dedication, and commitment. One must be patient for everything takes time. One must be willing to devote the time to be successful on an every day basis. Commitment is necessary for you must allow the butterfly to emerge from the cocoon organically – without expectation of end results.
We are each special in our own way; some call that trite, but the reality is this is Truth. No one, in all the multitudes of lifetimes, is exactly the same. No one has the exact same lifetime, same experiences, same joys, or the same traumas. It is how our Path winds and turns during one’s life that makes each one different. And we each deserve the right to figure out which camp we belong to and where we want to end up.
And as we wind this up, let me say there is not a single thing wrong with being in camps 1, 2, or 3 – each is a valid path in and of itself. It will just make it less frustrating for you and less expensive for you if you do a little digging internally before you set out into the metaphysical community. The more you know about yourself the easier you will find your answers.
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