I was teaching a Reiki 1 class this last weekend when the subject of Free Will came up. Reiki is very Free Will oriented, because as a Reiki Practitioner it is not my responsibility to heal anyone other than myself. In simple terms I facilitate the opportunity for others to heal themselves when I channel Reiki energy to them. What they do or not do with it is not my responsibility. This simple concept is actually quite complex and when you start to examine it and incorporate it into your life, your outlook on life and your behavior will change.
This is, however, a difficutl concept for many to fully understand for it has not been applied in our society for decades. Religions and societal organizations project the idea that you are stupid and helpless and need someone/something to tell you how to live your life. On the other hand though, you are told you are responsible for everyone in your life – their choices, actions, and non-actions become your responsibility and if they “fail” then it means you have “failed”.
This is incorrect. Apart from one’s children and/or those one is responsible for under the age of 18, it is not your responsibility to make someone else live your beliefs, actions, or choices. To force your opinion down someone else’s throats or to make them do what you think is best is disrespectful in many ways as well as the act creates karma.
Especially now in the days of social media, where the encouragement and expectation is to do just that – post your opinion on everything from the newest natural disaster to politics to religion to your neighbors actions to your friends activities – to step back and just allow everyone to do what they choose to do out of their free will is abhorent to many.
I have two rules in my life – don’t mess with my children and don’t abuse animals. Children are our responsbility to teach and animals are at our mercy. Neither are responsible for someone else’s actions and they don’t have the capacity to maturity to understand those actions and the impact upon their lives. In many cases, they don’t ever escapt the damage that has been done from both well-intentioned adults in their lives or the ones in their lives who wish to abuse the gift of caring for them.
Adults have the right to consent to anything they want and my opinion does not need to be gained and my approval does not need to be sought after for them to make their choices. Do what you want to do, but believe me – I am not going to step in and save the day because you don’t want to accept the responsbility of your actions.
This is not cruel of me, though many might disagree. It is not that I won’t give my opinion and I won’t hold back thoughts or make suggestions to help a situation if I am asked for it. I am not, however, going to swoop in and make it all better. You created this situation and if I don’t let you experience it then HOW are you going to learn and grow? That would be so disrespectful of me because I am not better than you nor am I the Creator to tell you what you SHOULD DO. I honor you and the choices you make because you and I are both living the human life, both of us are spiritual beings in human form and we each deserve the right to express ourselves and live our lives in alignment with our free will.
In the alternative healing field, many people feel that because they have started the process to heal their own life and they have the desire to help others (always a commendable desire) that they have the right to tell others what they should be doing or how their actions in the past were “wrong” or that they need to do X or Y to make their life “better”.
It is shocking at times how few of these people who say they live their lives in alignment with the beliefs promoted by their modality actually do live it. I have yet to find a valid energy modality that encourages anyone to take on the responsibility for their clients’ healing and yet so many people out there are promoting themselves as “healers” and say they have the answer for everyone’s life to be “better”.
Everyone is living their life at this moment and that life is the culmination of all choices and non-choices the person has made. And so it should be. By looking at someone else’s life and situation and judging that life or those actions to be lacking in some manner is extremely judgment and is extremely far from living the belief of free will. Ironically, this is your choice to make should you so desire it, but I offer up a different point of view to those who come to me, be it student or client.
EVERYONE is a healer, for you are responsible for healing your own self. Otherwise, your role is to be a facilitator, a channel for someone’s opportunity to heal themselves.
Which is quite honorable and not shameful at all and it is a joyful role to play in life.
When you take on other people’s responsibility for living their life then you are creating karma. Be respectful of the rules of Free Will and allow those concepts and rules to sink deeply into your life. Don’t just chat it up – LIVE IT.
You may be amazed at how drama free and peaceful your life is once you stop trying to force anyone else to live your choices – always a great side benefit to living in alignment with the Light.
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