Every student I have ever encountered is seeking something. They don’t know what it is that they are looking for, they only know that they are unhappy. Most think they should BE happy since they have a place to sleep at night and lives they were told would make them happy.
Yet, the kids and the relationships don’t make them happy.
The houses with yards and cars to maintain don’t make them happy.
The clothes in the closet and the jewelry in the box and the multiple tvs in every room don’t make them happy.
The food in their stomachs and the gym memberships don’t make them happy.
They have a job that is supposed to supposed to fulfill them, yet they are not happy.
But, you say, you are doing everything your parents told you to do, everything your teachers told you to do, everything anyone you trusted or respected told you to do. What is the matter with you? Why are you discontented? Are you just a malcontent who does not appreciate the different things life has put in front of you?
It is not a mystery; unlike what marketers and advertisers tell you things don’t make anyone happy. You are unhappy because while the life you live may be considered by many as “good” it is not the life you were designed to live. One only feels True happiness when one is living the life one is designed to live – happiness comes from within and not from outside.
What is within and what is outside? Things are outside. Other people’s opinions and perspectives are outside. Only you are inside – only you and all you, locked within your mind, your thoughts, your ideas, your hopes, your fears, and all that is unacknowledged – all these things are inside you and what drive your unconscious and your conscious states of being.
You were conditioned from the time you were a baby by your parents, siblings, family members on outward on what was considered to be good or bad or appropriate or inappropriate, depending upon your family’s mores, finances, and ethnicity. It is not until the individual becomes the young adult will he or she start to question how they were raised – and some never do.
Sometimes people are comfortable with the way they were raised. For them to rock the boat by thinking something differently is inconceivable. It is easier to watch injustices and inequalities take place and judge them as deserving instead of looking at the world around them and questioning why they have “this” and others do not.
But there is that small percentage of individuals whom balk at the status quo. Those who can observe what is happening around them and over time realize that they are deeply unhappy with what they have, with the way they are living, and they begin to search for something to change that unhappiness into happiness.
Every student I have ever had exhibits this trait. Every client also. And I have no words of happiness to share – because the only way one becomes happy is to make the changes in one’s life that have already been avoided. But I am happy to say that once the dust has settled you will be happy – much happier than the current state of misery.
Every desire may not be met, yet every need will be. Education may therefore take place on what one considers a need, but the truth is humans really do not need a lot of things. A safe place to stay, a warm bed to sleep in, food to eat, water to drink, and the internal state of happiness that allows one to continue on through all challenges and struggles.
You cannot buy this happiness, otherwise you would have done so already. But you can expose it to your own consciousness, you can look it in the eye and develop internal strength and courage and then actualize it in your physical reality. Change happens to all of us. But to take the strength and courage within and forge that change into a new life for yourself where you will be happy – is that not worth everything?